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Using the Personals - Placing an
Try to include such things as age, race, height, weight, smoking preference, education, hobbies, occupation, interests, children, and so on. Age or age range is a must if you want replies. Most people would also like to know a little about your appearance. Be honest. If you paint a false picture, people will know it the minute they see you and this will not get your relationship off to a good start. Even potential negatives can become positives, however, with the right wording.
It is also important to be fair in describing the type of person you'd like to meet. It is best to mention only those characteristics that you consider essential. A long list of restrictive criteria can be a real turn-off and imply that you are judgmental or demanding.
Be sure to mention interests and pastimes of yours in your ad. This adds a good deal of interest and personal flavor. If you mention that you enjoy scuba diving and the other person happens to as well, you increase your chances dramatically of getting a call from that person.
The number of replies you get depends on the service you use. However, you may increase your response rate three to five times by leaving a "voice mail," or recorded, message. In this, you simply expand verbally on the information you give in your printed ad.
Keep the conversation light and upbeat when you and a potential date connect. Many of the questions for dates given on this site can be used to get to know a person better on the phone as well. You will also find tips on this site for keeping the conversation going when the two of you finally get together.
Remember that using the personals is by an large a "numbers" game and if you play it long enough, the law of averages will eventually work in your favor. Perseverance and persistence pay off. Even if you don't get the desired results at first, continue to advertise and respond to others.
Also, it may be necessary to meet several people before you find one that you want to continue to date. If you don't "click" with one person, simply move on to the next. And remember that there is no rule that says you can't date more than one person at a time, at least at first.
Most of all, remember that playing the personals game should be fun, and it is good practice at meeting people as well.
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