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The Secrets of Attracting the Opposite Sex - Increasing your Allure
So now we come to the question that confronts many people: "How do you get somebody of the opposite sex to become attracted to you?"
Well, one thing you can do is become interested in the other person. Dale Carnegie claimed that the secret of getting a woman to fall in love with you was to simply talk to her about herself (and I suppose that the same psychological principal applies to men, as well)! Questions that utilize this principle, specifically geared toward the opposite sex, are given on this site.
But perhaps the biggest secret of being attractive to the opposite sex is even simpler. Michael Morgenstern in his book How to Make Love to a Woman and Alexandra Penney in her book How to Make Love to a Man both stressed the importance of this element in attracting the opposite sex. Morgenstern wrote, "When I asked women what they find most sexy in a man, the answer was almost always the same: self-assurance." And says author Vernon Howard, "The man who gets places with his lady is the one who is so genuinely bold that he can approach her without the slightest concern whether or not she will turn him down."
The man or woman who possesses self confidence is impressive to the opposite sex for the same reasons that he or she is impressive to anyone else. People naturally think that there must be some underlying reason for all this self-confidence, and this tends to impress them as well.
Since the shy tend to lack self confidence and self-assurance, or at least the appearance of same, they are, as usual, at a bit of a disadvantage here. However, while we can't all look like Mr. or Miss America, we can all go about improving our appearance of self-confidence.
One of the best ways of doing this is by making better eye contact. In fact, in an Esquire poll, women rated the eyes as a man's sexiest feature! Perhaps this is because the eyes truly are a "window into the soul." They reveal what a person thinks about himself--or herself. If a person has self-confidence, it will show in the amount of eye contact he or she makes. Eye contact can also be seen as an indicator of the amount of interest somebody has in the other person.
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